I am not a jealous person. Never have been. I often tell people they are beautiful and compliment them. If you went on a fun vacation, I am so happy for you. If you won the lottery, had a baby, or bought a house I would be the first person to tell you congratulations! I give without expecting anything back and I don’t hold things over heads that I have helped along the way. I would not tell deliberate lies on anyone, even my enemies. I don’t have it in me to be snarky or passive aggressive in conversations.
Therefore all the above things I don’t understand in other people. Jealousy, selfishness, liars, or just plain old being hateful aren’t the qualities that I can wrap my head around. I dislike senseless attacks on people based on age, gender, religion, and culture. Nor do I desire to be around those who display such cruelty and a lack of empathy.
On the other hand I do not suffer fools gladly. I have a low tolerance for dishonesty, mansplaining, and such. I don’t have any qualms in calling someone out publicly especially when it comes to cruelty to children. I don’t dwell on those who’ve wronged me but my Scottish ancestors remind me to “remember the bastards names” and I do. I have strong opinions but I won’t shove them down your throat. I ask that you do the same in dealing with me.
I have a pretty good sense of myself at over 50 years of age. I’m Genx. I was raised on hose water and neglect. I believe none of us should ever be done learning or trying to become the best version of ourselves we possibly can.